Rosh Hashanah, a Check-Up For the Soul

One of four new years, Rosh Hashanah is the biggie — when we ask for forgiveness and start the next year with a clean slate.

This is always a busy time of year. Most non-Jews notice when their Jewish neighbors, colleagues, and schoolmates are missing from view for many days in a row, several times over the next couple of months. As Jews, this is one of our big holiday seasons. In rapid succession we celebrate Rosh Hashanah, Yom Kippur, Sukkot, and Simchat Torah.

Rosh Hashanah is one of our four new years. This is our biggie. We ask for forgiveness and start the next year with a clean slate. Our calendar changes over and we begin reading the Torah from the beginning again.

Yom Kippur is the day of atonement, but don’t let the name fool you. We don’t only have one day to atone for the missteps of the previous year. Yom Kippur is the culmination of a month of slichot or forgiveness. It is on this day that the final decisions about our fate are made for the year to come.

Sukkot is a festival to celebrate the fall harvests. We build little booths outside our home and eat, drink, sleep, and hang out in them for seven days.

Finally, Simchat Torah is a celebration of our Torah. We have reached the end of the scroll and must roll it back to bereshit — or Genesis — to begin our cycle again. There is much dancing and singing with the Torah scroll.

But let us talk about the time leading up to these holidays. Rosh Hashanah takes place on the first day of the month Tishrei. Jews view the preceding month of Elul very seriously. Some view it with sadness and a heavy heart from the very first day, and some find a joy in the month. So what is so special about Elul? Elul is our chance to reflect on the past year, review our deeds or misdeeds, and ask for forgiveness.

The point of Eluling isn’t to beat up on your soul. It is to clear your soul to lighten you up for the New Year.

There are many things that might be clear missteps in our lives. You didn’t tell the clerk when she gave you too much change. You ate all of your brother’s cereal and didn’t replace it. Or perhaps more serious transgressions. How do you know it was a transgression? As my parents would tell me and my father’s father told him, “If you would be embarrassed about telling me something, that is a clue that you aren’t happy with it.”

But there are additional things that not only mar our souls but our subconscious as well. The time your friend asked for help and you just didn’t feel like it so you said you were busy. When someone gave you a gift and you forgot to say thank you. Even deeper, there is another level, the transgression you weren’t even aware was happening. In your hurry to get out of class you stepped on someone’s foot and didn’t notice. You totally forgot that you didn’t follow up with that friend who really needed your help.

With so many levels of transgressions, wait . . . I dislike that word. Perhaps I should say smudges or tears (tiny and large alike) in our souls. With so many smudges, how do you know how to make amends? And do I really have to?

The answer is yes, unequivocally. But here’s the upside: a Jew must forgive every Jew. You cannot hold the grudge into the next year, for that will mar your own soul. So how to make amends . . . first apologize. You can send an email to your brother/sister and say, “I am sorry if I did anything to harm you in the past year.” But, you say, I am not walking into a shop and apologizing to a clerk. I can’t remember whom exactly it was I wronged. Good point. In that case, you need to ask G-d to forgive you and, very importantly, you need to forgive yourself.

Frankly, the easy part is asking friends and strangers to forgive you. The hard part comes when you have to forgive yourself. Even Hashem, G-d, will forgive you if you ask for it. No questions asked there; you just have to ask. The part that most of us struggle with is forgiving ourselves. Not only is it a struggle to forgive ourselves but also, when you start thinking about those things, you start piling them on. I didn’t give enough to charity, I didn’t go to the gym, I said I would pray every morning and I got lazy. The point of Eluling isn’t to beat up on your soul. It is to clear your soul to lighten you up for the New Year.

Many times I have seen people burst into tears at the first sound of the shofar on Rosh Hashanah because it is such a release.

The process can be intense if you really give it your attention. Many times I have seen people burst into tears at the first sound of the shofar on Rosh Hashanah because it is such a release. With the toots and bursts of the shofar, the sins, the mars, the blemishes wash away. While Rosh Hashanah is a festive two days, it is not a time for idle chatter and games. Our souls are still in limbo and will be until G-d seals the book of life on Yom Kippur. Therefore, it is suggested that you don’t nap or have a lot of conversation in your home during this time; rather turn your mind to reading tehillim or psalms to keep your energies focused on the right idea.

Beyond all the trappings of honey and hearing the shofar, the end of Elul and the holiday of Rosh Hashanah provide us with two non-corporeal things.

1. A brand-new, fresh-out-of-the-package, new-car-smelling soul. No bumps, dents, dings, or blemishes. It’s yours for the year to bump and ding and scratch; you just have to remember to clean it up next year.

2. Rosh Hashanah is a marker in time, a line on the doorpost measuring your growth. Compare the you of today and the you of last Rosh Hashanah. Have you grown in self and spirit?

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  • green76j

    God’s chosen people also believe that the act of creation took place on what is today the Temple Mount in Jerusalem which orthodox Jewish scholarship believes is the original site of the Garden of Eden (Isaiah 51:3, Ezekiel 36:35). According to the record of Scripture Jesus Christ fulfilled the prophetic significance of the 4 Spring Jewish feast days. Jesus was crucified on Passover, buried on Unleavened Bread, Resurrected on First Fruits, and the Holy Spirit came to Jerusalem on the Feast of Pentecost as the Lord had promised.

    Looking back through history, you can see that Jesus fulfilled those first 4 feasts of the 7 Jewish feast days in the proper day sequences. Thus to be consistent, Jesus must fulfill the last 3 feasts, the Fall feasts, also in the proper day sequences. The next feast to be fulfilled will be the Feast of Trumpets or Rosh Hashana and that happens when Jesus Christ comes back to the earth. I’m not talking about the Rapture of the Church but the Second Coming of Jesus Christ and that is the time when Jesus will tell the angel to blow the trumpet (Matthew 24:31).

  • annereno775

    Dear Ms. Davis:

    Why do you have to censor the word “GOD” in an article about the celebration of holidays given by GOD to his people?

    Are you ashamed to associate yourself with GOD (barring a bland “religious” article) or does God automatically take the backseat when “political correctness” is at play?

    GOD Bless you.

  • annereno775

    Ms. Davis,

    I don’t know if you’ll ever read my comment but I just want to sincerely apologize if it came across a little harsh.